Men Secret Issues - Part I

By Dr John Anne

Couples all over the world who have sex use typical positions to enhance their sexual experience. A single couple could use many positions in order to satisfy their interests, and they could change these positions from time to time to prevent the monotony from creeping in. There are different positions that are ideal in different circumstances. The ancient Indian treatise on sex, Vatsyayana’s Kamasutra, explains several sexual positions in detail and enlists their various merits and demerits. Some of the popular positions of the Kamasutra are explained in this article.
The first and the most popular position is the missionary position. This is the safest position when it comes to sexual intercourse, and it can be rightfully said that every couple of the world uses this position for most of their sexual activities. The missionary position is adopted with the woman lying on her back and her legs hoisted in the air. The man penetrates from top, inserting his penis into her vagina.
The missionary position is classified as one of the natural comfort positions of sex, which means, the body does not need to unduly exert itself to achieve the coitus. The male normally lies atop the female, while the female is well-rested as her back is on the surface. This position allows the penis to lock securely within the vagina and hence there is no waste of semen. For men with short penises and low sperm counts, this is very beneficial.
But some feminists believe that the missionary position gives too much importance to the male partner. The missionary position provides natural stimulation of the G-spot and the clitoris by the penis. For some people, the expressions on the partner’s face during intercourse may be a major turn-on, but the partners cannot see the lower bodies. To counter the drawbacks in the missionary position, there is another position known as the woman-on-top position. This is a totally feminist-appealing position. Here the man lies on the back with his legs outstretched. The woman positions herself in a sitting position on the man such that his penis enters her vagina. In this position, the woman does the jerking movements and hence the control is in the hands of the woman. Plus, the man and the woman both are free to fondle each other’s breasts and nipples; and get visually stimulated by the same. The position allows the man to reach out and stimulate the clitoris, or to fondle the buttocks. The woman-on-top position is also called as the cowgirl position, because the woman looks as though she is striding a horse.
However, this position is also not perfect. There is a problem of the penis slipping out of the vagina repeatedly making the whole process quite cumbersome. It is very difficult for men with short penises. Also when the woman is pregnant, this position is not advisable.
There is a reverse cowgirl position in which the woman sits facing the other way. This position is favored by some couples, as it allows better stimulation of the clitoris. Also the woman can reach out to stimulate the man’s scrotum or anus. At the same time, the man can caress the woman’s back and breasts. And just like the cowgirl position, the reverse cowgirl also provides the control in the hands of the female, while allowing the male to rest.
In both the cowgirl and the reverse cowgirl positions, there is a danger of the penis being damaged. It is necessary that the female keep this in mind, and begin the rocking motions only when the penis is comfortably positioned inside the vagina.
When it comes to relaxing during sex, there is no position comparable to the spoon position. In the spoon position, both male and female lay on their sides and ensconced within each other like two spoons. The butt of the female is placed against the groin of the male. The male can penetrate the anus of the female, or if he lifts her leg a bit, can even penetrate her vaginally. If bored, both partners can change sides, and the woman can reach out and masturbate the man’s penis with her hand.
The spoon position is an equating position. For the more adventurous couples, there is the supported congress position. Actually this is a very difficult position to achieve, and only couples with a good degree of flexibility and physical strength can pull it off. Here the woman is propped against a wall, and the man penetrates her from the front. The woman then lifts her legs and wraps it around the man’s torso. Hence the entire weight of the woman is supported by the wall and the man’s hands.
There is no end to the number of sexual positions, and every couple has their own modified versions. Just take care that you keep changing the positions from time to time in order to avoid the monotony.